Moms Talk: Carpool Etiquette

What's the best way to tell your neighbor that your kid doesn't need a ride today? Is it OK to be upset if there's no communication?

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This week's question comes to us from our trusted , whose members want to know if it's OK to hit your neighbor with a lacrosse stick when she fails to inform you that her kid doesn't need a ride to school this morning. Is it OK to honk your horn when you pull into someone's driveway? What is proper carpooling etiquette?

Melissa Hodge February 16, 2011 at 11:19 PM
I love to use my fb friends to answer these Q& A's. Here are a few that were posted on my page in response to carpool etiquette: From JM: Hell yeah, I'd be upset. From YP: Ok to be upset with mom not communicating that kid doesn't need ride. Lacrosse stick is a bad idea. I'd rather mom honks to let me know she's here rather than to leave kids alone in car to come to door. From CPH: Set up 'carpool etiquette' do's and don'ts ahead of time - with your carpooling families. i.e., 'when my kid doesn't need a ride, I/we will do such and such or this and that' - why wait till happens. Liken it to a bus driver - If student's don't show at the proper time, the bus leaves ;)
Jenna Chandler February 16, 2011 at 11:23 PM
Melissa, direct them to Patch so they will leave comments here! Plus, I want to know their real names ;)
Melissa Hodge February 16, 2011 at 11:28 PM
I promise you, I DO! ... but it's like trying to teach my dad how to use his iPhone. Oy vey!
Jennifer Pointer February 17, 2011 at 12:54 AM
So far as a mom of a five year old, I have yet to use carpools. However, we do have ones in the area. As a resident, I do not like the honk, they come at all times. Set a time when you get there for some one to be on the lookout and stop honking in the street.
Penny Arévalo February 17, 2011 at 06:01 AM
Car pools become mandatory when you have several kids going in several different directions, both for school and extracurriculars. It drives me CRAZY when parents don't tell you their kid isn't going to an activity, so you show up to their house anyway. But we never honk. One of my kids walks up and knocks or we call the cell phone. Everyone has a cell phone these days, even the elementary kids.


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