BLOG: Have You Heard of the Spider Stance?

In my Free Bully Buster Workshops (click to see video), I teach moves to a “Bully Buster Form” that I have developed based on skills that can help to defuse and defend against bullying. 

The different moves are great learning tools for kids, as it gives them physical movements to draw upon for situations that they may experience or that could be dangerous. It also creates a progression of different defenses that they can go through based on how they perceive the situation and real threats.  I will be teaching these moves at my at . 

I like to make the analogy of bullies to spiders. Spiders like bullies, making a web that catches people who are not aware or do not see the webs. We have all been on a hike, or walking through a dark area, and have run into a spider web that we did not see. 

The normal reaction is to freak out, doing the there-may-be-a-spider-on-me dance! But I am guessing that for the rest of your walk, you will be super careful to be looking high, low and in the middle for another spider web hiding in your path. Or even better, you will decide to take different route altogether to avoid what you think may be good areas for spiders to make their webs!

This is a great analogy that kids understand and the demonstration of how we often react when we run into a spider web that we don’t see, gets a lot of laughs! 

So I teach them a “spider stance” where they are on the balls of their feet, with legs spread shoulder width apart, knees bent, with hands out in a directional surveillance sweeping motion. Their head is to be looking up, down and all around, pretending like they are scanning the room for spider webs. 

This is an over-exaggerated stance that reinforces being aware, scanning your area and looking for potential threats. We also talk about the concept of avoiding areas where bullies typically hang out, just like how you would avoid walking in between two large bushes that would be great spider web real estate. 

Kids like this stance, as it taps into their excitement for curiosity and investigative abilities like superheroes or detectives.

To get all of the moves, you can come to my workshop this Saturday! Register online to reserve your spot! Or call 949-240-6574.